Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Dr. Yuvraj Kapadia: Problem can never be sorted out at the level at which you create it

Hi, continuing our series on mastering our lives …through understanding our mind. Let us look at how our minds are working right now. At one level, we are all seeking peace, we are all seeking happiness, we are all seeking abundance. Which one of us is not! If that is what we are seeking, it is pretty obvious that perhaps we do not have it, because, if we had it, we would not be seeking it. So, if we are not happy, not peaceful, let us understand what makes us unhappy.

Broadly speaking everything that makes us feel unhappy falls only in one of the following two categories:
a) The way other people behave with us or the way the situation jacks us up!
b) Our own behaviour.

There is nothing in this world, which has the ability to make you feel upset, UNLESS YOU DECIDE TO FEEL THAT WAY

Ideally, we would all love to see other people change. How we would love it! How we would wish our boss becomes this kind, compassionate, benevolent character who will give us leave whenever our heart requires it. How we wish we could manifest a wife who would give us unconditional love and embrace us for whatever we are even though we may stink like a pack of shit and how we wish our friends would tolerate our worst habits. We would love for everybody to change and how we would love the destiny to smile at us and give us a lottery of a million US dollars! How we would love our business prospects to shoot up as India is growing at 8% … We would all love these things… idealistic solution........ bottom line truth.... very elusive. So for all those of us who are stuck in the rigmarole of waiting and waiting for people to change and situations to change are perhaps condemned to waiting… because that is the only thing they will do, wait.

Truly what is in your own capacity, my friends is your own behaviour. You cannot control anything in the universe other than yourself.

Then if it is your behaviour, let us figure out in your behaviour what makes you unhappy? One of the key things in our behaviour which makes us unhappy is our perceived failures of life. Every single human who has walked this planet has had a graph of duality, where there have been moments of ecstasy and moments which have been painful: there are moments of great joy & success and there are moments of pathos and sadness.

Yet lives biggest success stories revolve behind those who clearly understood that there is no such thing in life as failure. It is only feedback. Which means, if you have inherent faith in the director of this plot, in your own most empowered potential and you feel there is something in your life which is not working in your assessment (please remember whatever is happening is having an inherent wisdom in it, rather than looking at it as a failure and letting your mind spin out of control in a negative degrading spiral downwards, if you could start training yourself to understand that if it is happening, it is happening with divine sanction, which means there must be a benefit for me.

There is no situation in your life my friends that that will come into your life without an inherent benefit. Our problem is, we get so caught up in the emotional drama that follows our perceived failure that very often we fail to spot the inherent benefit in that moment. If you check most successful people in life, when they talk about their life stories and when they talk about their lives when they were very difficult, in retrospect they will tell you how those difficulties were hugely responsible for teaching them and training them and giving them those invaluable attributes that they so desperately required at that moment of their lives. So, if that is happening to you today my friends, if there is in your life that is not working right now, just ask yourself if this is happening for my benefit, let me try and find it. Cause there is a benefit for sure.

Always remember, as Einstein says, a problem can never be sorted out at the level at which you create it. For solving a problem, one needs to always rise about it. Problems are nothing but universal’s wisdom’s way of saying move up in life, there is a solution already there which you need to find and that solution or that benefit is what you need to spot and crack. Now if you get this very clear in your mind, that all your life’s stories is nothing but a sequence of events in which you were either learning, gaining, becoming wiser, becoming sharper, becoming more intelligent, becoming tougher maybe becoming smarter, then the inner programming of your magnet will get beautifully aligned into this absolutely one way street of positive outlook.

The day you manage, my friends, you have mastered your life. You have mastered your life simply because whether you believe it or not, it is not the environment which determines your success or failure, it is always the response you exhibit at that moment in time that will determine this.

So, right now, just take a deep breath and start talking to yourself that whatever is happening in your life at this moment of time is because somebody up there wants it to happen and if somebody up there wants it to happen, then it is in your own interest to allow it to happen and enjoy that and if it is in your interest to allow it and enjoy it then you also realize that you need to change the way you talk to your own god, because all this while your continuous communication with your god has been, Oh god, this is such a huge problem. From today let’s just change that, let’s talk to the problem and tell the problem I have a huge god, which is much bigger than you. The day you start doing this consistently my friends, you cracked it.

Be with it… it is difficult to digest… I am sure somewhere in your heart a little bulb is going to get lit up !!!

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